i'm the adult, right? i shouldn't wear my heart on my sleeve anymore or allow a three year old child to effect my moods so drastically. well guess what? i do and she does!
lately lula has been refusing to answer me when i ask her the simple question, "how was your day?" she puts on this random air as if she was too cool for school or like i'm asking her about something she's done wrong.
the thing is, i don't really want to talk. i used to be a very quiet person until my kids came along. i was usually the wallflower in a group and happy to be so. people who've met me recently wouldn't believe that, but it's the truth. jay often asks, "what happened to my quiet, sweet wife?" well, kids happened! that's what!
anyway, back to this situation with lula. so i'm happy to drive my car and not talk. i'd much rather listen to music, i'll be honest. but i do care about my children and their lives, and i want them to know it. so i always ask about what's going on in lu's life. (since d can't really tell me yet.) but lately she won't answer.
and let me tell you... it REALLY irks me. it just seems so rude and snobby. i mean she literally talks all day long non-stop and she can't bother to answer one little question of mine? so sometimes i just start ignoring her. if she asks me something, i don't respond. which makes her really mad. pretty childish, huh?! but it works. she gets the message: 1. it's not all about you; 2. it feels pretty crappy to be ignored.
yet, even though she gets the message, she continues to do it. maybe at this point it's because she knows how irritated i get even though i don't say anything. but today it happened again. and it literally ruined my entire evening. now i know what my dad would say: "If you can be offended you will be offended until you can be offended no more." i know... i let a three year old control my emotions and mood. i know! it's partially hurtful, but it's partially because i don't know what to do about it and feel like i should do something about it.
kids try to get under your skin. according to the boundaries with kids book, that's their job. lula has been saying, "you're not my friend anymore" when she's mad about something. i could truly care less. i know she's just throwing a tantrum with words and it doesn't phase me in the least. but for some reason, this ignoring thing just seems wrong.
anyway, i obviously am not handling it well. so any advice?! i could sure use some!