just after janie marries her first husband, she heads back to nanny for some help:
"there are years that ask questions and years that answer. janie had had no chance to know things, so she had to ask. did marriage end the cosmic loneliness of the unmated? did marriage compel love like the sun the day?"
nanny's comment on how janie's first husband is treating her:
"humph! don't 'spect all dat tuh deep up. he ain't kissin' yo' mouf when he carry on over yuh lak dat. he's kissin' yo' foot and 'tain't in uh man tuh kiss foot long. mouf kissin' is on uh equal and dat's natural but when dey got to bow down tuh love, dey soon straightens up."